Nervous Around Women? 4 Steps To Overcome Nervousness

Standing at the magazine rack thumbing through Cosmo, she has the most gorgeous face you've ever seen. Her hair is silky brown. Her skin looks so radiant and so incredibly soft. You would be on top of the world if you could pick her this girl up.

You feel the fear deep in your gut.

You know that even if you got your balls in gear and went for it, you wouldn't know what to say. You feel so nervous and fumbly that you would reject yourself if you were her. So you shy away from even approaching her in the first place.

Does this situation sound familiar? If so, keep reading.

The first thing for you to realize is that all guys get anxiety about approaching women. I know I certainly do.

But what separates you (and me) from the rest of the guys is...

What You Do About Your Fear.

Most guys let fear paralyze them... not just about chicks, but about other things in their life like their career... which is why, unfortunately, most guys will never find the success that they want.

First, look at where your fear comes from. The problem is inside of you. It's not with the chicks.

If you're thinking about rejection, then that means you're making your approaches with a certain outcome in mind (I'm just guessing, but I think if you're like most guys, your goal is getting chicks attracted to you so that you can get laid).

Try this instead... approach without having any expectations. No goals.

Let me tell you about a problem I used to have. I'm inclined to be an introvert, as I discuss in my book, "How to Become an Alpha Male."

So to overcome my shyness, I would force myself to chat up everybody, no matter who they were... hot girls, ugly girls, fat girls, old people, men, children, people walking dogs, etc.

I would talk about neutral topics with them, nothing to do with picking up chicks.

The net result from all of that was I became really good at approaching people.

After that, however, I made a mistake. I said to myself, "Since I'm so good at approaching people and have become an outgoing person, why am I wasting time talking to anyone other than hot chicks?"

So then I limited the people I talked to... and my anxiety about talking to random women swept over me once again. It was as if I'd never had all that practice chatting up strangers in the first place.

At that point I realized it was because I was outcome-dependent. Because I had thoughts like "I'm going to try to lay this chick" in my mind... before I'd even opened my mouth to say "hi"... and so I would crash and burn. It sucked.

Here's something I want you to try. Whenever you go out, talk to three people, but do it just for practice. Don't do it for real.

Because it's just for practice, don't limit yourself to just talking to hot women. In general, I've found that elderly people (both males and females) and fat women are easy to talk to.

If it helps, set up a time limit for your practice interactions, like that you'll talk to the person for 30 seconds and then you'll get out of the conversation. (Say something like, "Well, I'm on my way to meeting a friend. Good chatting with you." And then walk away without making a big deal of it.)

Once you've done your practices and feel warmed up, then you can chat up hot chicks. Again though, do it without having any sort of sex-related outcome in mind. For example, if a chick passes by you in a hallway, just say, "Hey, I need a quick female opinion on something." (Then ask about something that you genuinely want a female opinion on.)

Remember though: have no outcome in mind. So it doesn't matter if the chick responds rudely.

In fact, when you reach a point that you've chatted up lots of women, you'll find that eventually rude responses on their part mean nothing. You'll have an attitude of "ha, how original... I've had tons of women give me that exact same 'clever' rude comment."

I've been rejected hideously, time and time again. One chick screamed "Go away!" at me before I could even get out my initial sentence.

Another time I thought it was amusing when I approached a group of two girls, just for practice, and right after I said "hey," they both turned their backs on me in unison, as if they were synchronized dancers!

Now I just look back on all of that and laugh.

My point is that the more you approach, the more you'll reach a level where you notice that most people act in the same, predictable ways. It'll bore you rather than cause you anxiety.

Think of it as trying to build a house. You put down one brick at a time and cement it. Brick, cement. Brick, cement. It'll take a long time, but eventually, the walls will be up (which means you've finished the hard part).

To get a bit more psychological, there's really no such thing as "being nervous." You don't "get nervous," like it's some kind of flu virus that invades your body.

All feelings of nervousness come from within. You have a certain series of thought processes that you go through. You say things to yourself. (When you think thoughts like, "I would reject myself," it sets you up for failure!) You picture the chicks rejecting you. You feel tense in your body. And so on.

So what you can do to break this is to identify it for what it is.

Notice your negative thoughts and change them. Instead of thinking, "Oh my God, this chick is going to act like a bitch to me because I fumble my words"... think, "It's awesome that I'm making this approach, because if this chick rejects me, that means I've gotten her out of the way and I'm one step closer to finding my dream girl."

Notice where you feel tense in your body, and then let your muscles relax in those areas. For me, I feel tense in my jaw and face when I'm nervous. So when I relax my jaw and facial muscles, it alleviates a lot of my tension.

I'll wrap it up for you by concluding with this advice:

1) Be social for the sake of being social. Nothing else.

2) Remember that the only way to get over your fear is by doing the thing you fear. The more you do it, the easier it gets, because your attitude about the experiences will become, "Been there, done that, it's no big deal."

3) Recognize your bad thoughts and force yourself to replace them with good ones.

4) Ease the physical tension you have in your body when you feel nervous.

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How To Become An Alpha Male

"I don't get it!..."

"I've a nice car. I'm accomplished. My A-List CV make the next guy look funky. I even
wear the latest Armani! Why doesn't she flip for me? Why am I always alone??"

STOP!

How many times did you pound the dashboard of your Corvette bewailing this persistent question?

The avenue to Romance is littered with roadkill hearts and unrequited love.If you think you're unique in your loneliness, think again. There is enough dashboard pounding out there to start a global orchestra of dire distress.

But don't despair. Before you spin out of control, deploy the airbags fast. These strategic maneuvers should cruise you back on track:

1) Dress to Kill - all the time: No I don't intend that You wear that $5000 suit to the grocers or the Rolex to walk the dog. What I want you to do is is to dress decently each time you hit the streets. Dab on some cologne. Be neatly shaven. Men, women are everywhere. If you dress with flash only at the bar or the party, you're missing out on 95% of eligible women. Some of the best relationships were forged during chance encounters at the bus stop.

2) Bedroom Eyes - When exploring new relationships with that sexy stranger, intensify the eye contact. Lock deep into her pupils. Let the rest of the world disappear even as a horde of supermodels troop by. You will naturally thrill her with the attention as she experiences the tendrils of growing attraction. Ethnologists have a term for it, the copulatory gaze. Get your eyes even sexier by enlargening your pupils. Dr. Hess concluded that dilated pupils are far far more attractive to women after he presented hundreds of assorted pictures of men to test subjects. How does one get the pupils popping? Simply gaze at the most alluring parts of her face and fill your mind with loving caring thoughts. Your pupils naturally grow, endowing you with irresistible eyes.

3) Visual Caress - Get your eyes do some facial travelling as you chat. Linger a bit on the nose, traipse across the eyes and rest at the lips. Drink in her facial features as though you were admiring the Mona Lisa. She will delight in the attention!

4) Easter Eggs - Stumped at having nothing to say? Listen carefully for easter eggs as you talk. These are unusual words of phrases that she utters. Ask her to expound on it. Say "What's the story behind that?" or "How do you feel about that?". Women love to be probed for their opinions and their feelings.Gently bring out her emotions with sensitive open-ended questions.

5) Keep it Adrenaline Charged - Men talk facts: stock figures, bill payments, and boring engine specs. Women are different. They delight in FEELINGS TALK: how the new dress takes them to 7th heaven, how that special meal got them all giddy with ecstasy, how their shopping expedition drains their deepest problems away. Leverage this by steering away from facts talk. Pick out emotionally charged subjects and ask her how she especially relates to them. You'll be her new confidant!

I know what you're thinking. It's all common sense! That's true, but ask yourself this: how many of you actually practice this? Be honest.

Get out there and be the man women loves. Use your common sense!

Learn The Art Of Flirting to Increase Your Chance of Getting The Girl

Many people believe that the art of flirting is something that you either have or you don't. The art of flirting can be mastered by anyone. All it takes is practice.
The first thing to know about the art of flirting is that it s something, which can be done by anyone. It doesn't require you to have a sporty physique, or handsome, chiselled features. The art of flirting emphasises the qualities that are unique to you and teaches you how to make the most of these. In this way, the art of flirting begins from the inside.

So what can you do to make sure others know you are a fantastic person? You need to understand how to use non-verbal communication to flirt successfully. The eyes are the window to the soul and they are also an excellent starting point for learning how to flirt. Have you ever glanced around a room and then suddenly a stranger catches your gaze? What is it about you that caught and held someone's attention, even if only momentarily? People like people who are attracted to them. Flirting is a skill that harnesses the many different types of gaze. The routine of making eye contact, holding it, breaking it, and then engaging again is one of the most basic yet effective methods in your flirting arsenal. This lets the person know you want to flirt with them, and you'll learn how to determine if they are interested from the reaction they give. You can also take this to the next level to let them know you are having 'impure' thoughts about them! Tell them you are looking to 'devour' them by holding their gaze even longer and breaking only to glance up and down their body.

Eye contact is obviously crucial, but should be used along with other kinds of body language. Positioning your body in such a manner that shows you are open to communication is crucial to the art of flirting. Flirting is a combination of being able to read their signals whilst also revealing your intentions. There's no need to think of flirting as something which other people do. You just need to be taught the key skills and how to practice them. Then go out and have some fun!

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How To Get The Girl You've Been Chasing Forever

Do you have trouble attracting women? Is there a particular girl you've been chasing forever and she either ignores you, or (worse!) treats you as a best friend, almost like a brother? You're not alone. Men have been chasing girls since the dawn of time, but there are some guys that are more successful than others. Sure, there are the good looking guys who women are initially drawn to, but more often than not, you find that they cannot keep a girls interest and not even get them as far as the bedroom.

To become an alpha male does not require you to be what is classed as traditionally good looking (you know - 6 pack abs, chiselled jaw). ANYONE CAN BECOME AN ALPHA MALE by spending a little time applying techniques and changing your behaviour. 

Firstly, you need to understand the psychological differences between men and women to understand what do women want in a guy. Read any poll on what attracts a girl to a guy and more often than not, you'll find that 'looks' are somewhere way down the list, and things like 'sense of humour' and 'confidence' are at the top.

Well, I've got good news for you. Confidence is something which can be learned and faked. Even if, at this moment in time, you feel you are the most shy retiring guy who will never have the guts to approach that girl. Using the tips in the Alpha Male System you'll learn how to read womens body language and tailor your approach to get success every time.

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A couple of people emailed me asking there were any cheaper, lower priced alternatives to the Alpha Male System.

The answer I'm afraid is 'no'. For under $40 you get a wealth of information in here which is unrivaled. You can buy the same book on Amazon in paperback for around $50, but to be fair I think you'll find the convenience of a PDF much better and more accessible (great for searching) than a traditional book.

If you haven't done already, then read my review here.

If you are still unsure, then don't forget that you get a 30 day money-back guarantee if you are not satisfied for whatever reason. The returns on this product are low however, for the single reason that a great deal of effort has gone into creating this Alpha Male ebook. It's a manual that you'll use for the rest of your life, and I know you will see vast improvements in your love life when you employ the techniques within.  It will show you how to make yourself very attractive for women to hit on you, so you don't have to do the chasing!

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Post a question if you are unsure and I'll do my best to answer.

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The Alpha Male System - A Review

I've had a lot of people emailing me, asking me to do a full review of The Alpha Male System. Is this just yet another useless system and waste of your hard earned cash, or can you actually become the type of guy that effortlessly attracts women?

First thing.... because I KNOW you are wondering... this is NOT going to be just another one of those B.S. reviews. Why? Because there's no point. I know you're a smart cookie, and you'll see through any B.S. straight away, so I'd be wasting both your time and my time (and I really hate wasting my time).

I had a long think about how I was going to do this review. In total, the book is 159 pages, so how should I structure it? What are the things that you are looking to know before you can decide if it's worth parting with your money...

The thing that ALWAYS got me about most e-books was the 'pitch page'. You know, the bit where everything sounds too good to be true, but sucks you in because it gives you hope! So, that's where I am going to start. I'm going to look at the claims on the pitch page, and give you more detail (and my opinion) on exactly how these are tackled in the book.

The 7 Step Seduction System that takes you from saying “hello” to a new woman…to sharing orgasms in bed with her… in just one evening! Page 101

Boy, that's one big claim! Let me be honest. This was the line in the pitch that was the main reason for me wanting to buy this book. I mean... who wouldn't want to know 7 steps to getting a women into bed?!

Well, first thing I did when I downloaded the e-book was - Yup! You guessed it! - flicked straight to page 101. I read the seven steps. Frowned. Read them again. This wasn't exactly the 'magic' I was looking for. Like a lot of things, when you read it, it all sounds like common sense and straightforward.

Then, I went to the start of the chapter and read the whole chapter to get the 7 step system in context. NOW it was all starting to look like there was something special here. It even has many pages on WHERE to find women (I'm not talking about ads in phoneboxes guys!) This was very useful to me. There are the obvious ones, such as 'work' and 'weddings', right out to ones I hadn't considered before such as 'charity events'.

Now, I'm going to give you the first step in this 7-step system. Hopefully it won't get me into trouble, but it will allow you to empathise with the initial disappointment I felt on reading the list straight away:

1. You will walk by a woman and have a quick, neutral conversation.

See what I mean? Where's the magic? Where's the voodoo that's going to let me put a spell on these women...

My disappointment didn't last long, once I started reading the book properly. There is so much detail to back this up. Like I was saying, the bit on WHERE to meet women is a gem. And it's over 10 pages long! Of course, you need to approach women - get close to women - if you are going to take things further (unless you're into all that cyberspace crap of course). Sounds simple, but for most guys like me - like you - the biggest hurdle is approaching women.

"What do I say?"
"What if she rejects me?"
or...
"What do I do if she does actually like me!?" (panic sets in...)

All these points are covered and answered in some depth.

Avoid these 3 behaviors and you’ll immediately become so seductive that women will actually feel themselves getting “wetter” around you! Page 44

What are these 3 behaviours? Well, I'll give you a starter for 10 - the first two are 'bragging' and 'putting yourself down'. The third one is more subtle, but - I think - more powerful than the other two put together. I'm not going to reveal it here, because it would be unethical. If you really take these on board and learn to exhibit the behaviours, then yes, women are attracted to you and will look at you in a different light. In fact, not just with your sex life, but your power at work will increase too. I put into practice the techniques in this book, and it really helped my confidence at work. In turn this changed the way people viewed me.

With women, it's had a MASSIVE impact. The first day I downloaded the book, I just skimmed a few of the sections. That very night, I chatted up a girl at a bar in town and I KNEW it was leading somewhere. The only thing that stopped us was her boyfriend butting in after 10 minutes! I laughed to myself. This guy came back to his girl and was seriously spraying his scent all around her. LOL. Had implementing the techniques in the Alpha Male System really made me appear such a threat..?

I don't normally gush over things like this, so I won't make an exception here. Remember - I said you'll spot B.S. a mile off. This book is good though. It's well written and very easy to read (helped greatly by John's writing style).

Do women now fall at my feet, begging me to pleasure them? Honestly, no.

Do I feel more confident and powerful in my life, and do women look at me with undertones of sexual desire and interest? Well, I have to say they do. The techniques in the Alpha Male System if followed (it's all about action, guys!) will improve your life. You WILL improve yourself, your stature, your confidence and, in turn, change the way people think about you. You WILL gain more respect. You WILL get more interest from women, and with the information in this book you WILL then know what to do once you have a woman's interest. The book leads you every step of the way. In fact, the last section is like a sex manual - packed with incredibly hot tips on how to DRIVE YOUR GIRL WILD in bed! There's stuff in there I'd never heard of, and I can certainly vouch for the fact that it works. Boy does it work....


Give the Alpha Male System a go. You really have nothing to lose, because John offers you a money back guarantee if you are not totally satisfied. If you want to know more before you buy, just post below and I'll try and answer your question.